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Don’t assume – bullying

These are some things that I think people need to realize shouldn’t be assumed. I was bullied from 4th grade to high school with varying levels of severity. I’ve gotten over most of the emotional toll, but I still have remnants even after decades have passed. Bullying isn’t a normal part of childhood, even tho the bullied thinks it is. This is written to a parent, but it applies to anyone who is around children/teens to some extent.

  • Don’t assume your kid knows difference between bullying and normal joking teasing (both sides give & take), teach them if it’s only fun for one person it’s wrong.
  • Don’t assume they’ll tell you if they are being bullied. My mom found out some of it when I was an adult and some she’ll never know.
  • Don’t assume bullies know they’re bullies. I’m certain that the teenage girls who picked me up to throw into a body of water thought it was just joking. Until I bit the nearest arm in self-defense.
  • Don’t assume telling school will solve it, many times that puts a bigger target on the kid. “tattle-tale” etc. so be prepared to go big. (If a child is assaulted even by another child, then you should speak to local authorities/police about what can be done.)
  • Don’t assume your kid will stop another kid from being bullied, peer pressure is very real. Teach them it is OK to speak up or get a teacher or to tell you afterwords (if it’s not safe to speak up). Teach them “silence is consent” – if they stay silent, they’re basically telling the bully (& victim) it is Ok. Some bullies will genuinely believe that someone would have stopped them if what they were doing was “that bad.”
  • If your kid confides in you about another kid being bullied, don’t assume the victim’s parents know. tell them & the school – perhaps in writing.
  • Don’t assume your child will tell you if your other child is being bullied. 3 of my siblings (2 different times) watched and said nothing. My little brother said he “opened the door so [Big Sister who was babysitting] could hear you screaming.”
  • Don’t assume that children know that “don’t touch stuff that doesn’t belong to you” also applies to people’s bodies. teach them that people are more important than things so of course it applies.
  • Don’t assume that children know that it is Ok to raise their voice & say “Back off” “Don’t touch me” “get your hands off of me” – even when they’re supposed to be quiet. Tell them just because you’re supposed to be quiet in a library etc, doesn’t mean you’re to allow someone to touch you.
  • Don’t assume children know what is the appropriate use of force. “Knee till you hit brain” is appropriate if a male is going to assault them. (but if the bullying is just verbal try not to escalate it (not the least of which, there could be charges))
  • Don’t assume being unkind/mean once = being a bully forever. I can recall a few times to my shame that I said unkind things to another kid. I didn’t mean to be mean, and I certainly wasn’t a bully. But teach them if you’re unkind to someone you should apologize and try never to do it again. And teach them to forgive if their friend was unkind. But if there is a habit of unkindness, that person isn’t their friend and they should stay away. even if they’re supposed to be their BFF.
  • Don’t assume the local bully’s parents know their kids are the biggest bully in town. They may be just as shocked as you would be at the idea that your kid is a bully. any accusations of being a bully, should be taken seriously and discussed with child before flying off the handle.
  • Don’t assume “once a bully always a bully” & “once a victim always a victim.” the bully may have been a victim at one time and the victim may become a bully. And bullies can change and become better people.

And lastly,

If someone teaches your kid, “sticks and stones” tell them that’s a lie. words hurt very badly.


Rant: TV Bad Guys

Why is it that bad guys on television always store all their data on a secret partition on their hard drive or a password protected folder? Is it just so the quirky, IT girl can crack the password dramatically saving the day somehow? They need to make life more difficult for the good guys: even quirky IT girls.

If I were a TV bad guy, and I had top secret data, maybe it’s the photos of Ronald McDonald eating a whopper that I’m using for blackmail or whatever, I’m not leaving it on any computer, phone or tablet for quirky IT girls to hack when I’m not there. Flash drives and SD Cards, which are only accessed via a guest account – that gets automatically wiped every time it shuts down, are the way to go. Heck, with Macs & the size of flash drives now a days, I could have the BadGuy user acct be on the flash drive.  Flash drive stays on my person; probably in disguise.

The SD card backups (128 GB minimum) can be hidden anywhere.  I’d probably have 2. One would be behind a baseboard, behind the medicine cabinet, light fixture or otherwise well hidden – it’s my longterm TimeMachine backup that I only access every so often to update. and the other would be labeled 4 gb (easy enough to fake) and placed in a crappy old camera, with some landscape shots (taken with that camera) in the default directory.

Cameras have functions to wipe cards automatically. Not difficult to run – not that secure but who would pay attention? If I see TV cops at my house, the flash drive gets tossed into a handy sewer (or hidden to retrieve later if I can do it safely).  If I can’t it’s disguised enough not to be completely obvious what it is.

The camera with the short-term backup card is almost hidden in plain sight but not quite – and definitely not in the same room with the computer stuff. That’s where the good guys will be focusing.  In a storage area with random old junk. (I’ll keep diatomaceous earth handy if I need to add more dust to the box when I put it away – it’s just a green way to kill bugs so that’s not suspicious a fan blowing would help the dust placement.) If I can, I’ll swap out the memory card with a fake that looks identical. Else I hope it doesn’t get noticed.  Another possibility is formatting it multiple times using the camera’s function.  This would only work if I can access the storage room when I say I’m going to the bathroom.

And of course, my long term storage is hidden safely away where it would be darn impossible to find; and preferably somewhere that a normal warrant wouldn’t cover. I’m the TV bad guy; what do I care about the rule of law and complying with warrants.

Another option for keeping the LT backup away from the TV good guys. Multiple PO Boxes in a different name, and just forward it around the country; eventually, it returns and I update it and then start the cycle all over again for the price of a stamp. this is also a way to get rid of the USB drive temporarily.

And if I were a really smart TV bad guy, I’d make it so that the flash drive and SD cards would look for each other and wouldn’t operate properly without the other.

One way or another, I’d confound the quirky IT girl  & the TV good guys and she wouldn’t be able to save the day so I’d be freed and be able to change to blackmailing the Taco Bell Dog for eating Pizza hut. They’d have to catch me accessing my stuff (and of course, my wifi would be disabled when I use it) for the TV good guys to triumph.

It’s a good thing I’m not a TV bad guy, cause if I can come up with this in the shower who knows what I could come up with if this was my full time job. 😀

Rant over. 😀

Boys Before Friends (US Remake of BOF) – Review/Rant

A little over an hour ago, I saw that Viki had the US remake of Boys Over Flowers, Boys Before Friends. So I decided to watch it. I tweeted this, “I’m gonna try the BOF remake. can’t be worse then the originals.” How very very wrong I was.

I hope proper drama reviewers/recappers take on this challenge but here is my rant.

Disclaimer: Please note I despise Boys Over Flowers, so this isn’t a “they ruined my favorite show” rant, this is a “How did they manage to make my least-favorite show even worse” rant?

Disclaimer 2: I don’t really know anyone’s name, and I don’t really care to.

Disclaimer 3: This is going to have spoilers, but come on, it’s BOF, you know what is going to happen anyway.

Problem #1:

It is apparently set in a grad school (the best grad school in the entire country). So the characters are mid-20s (at least); therefore, they don’t have the excuse of young & stupid. This isn’t HS pranks (not that it ever was just pranks to me), this is full on “go directly to jail, do not pass go” assault.

Problem #2:

Minor characters make absolutely no sense (or have Stockholm Syndrome – I’m not sure). 6 months ago, a black guy (as I said, don’t know the names) was given an F4 notice by some blonde witch but he doesn’t know why and decided since he had only one year left to put up with being assaulted until they find a new target instead of doing the adult thing and calling the freaking cops. (Come on. You’re in grad school, so aren’t you supposed to be intelligent. Did you use up your brain cells on the GRE?). 4 months later, his friend is now the target and he is the first one to assault his friend. Nice.

Speed up two months, and Zoey (lead girl) gets the notice. And you remember the locker room scene, right? Yeah, he is one of the instigators of the planned gang rape. So in 6 months, he goes from being assaulted for no reason to hitting his friend to rape. What!

BTW, that scene was despicable in the original, (I know people you can say they were HS boys & were just going to scare her), but it is much worse with adult men. Rape isn’t a joking matter, and anyone attempting to rape someone should have their testicles removed, through their throat. Seriously, someone tries anything with you, knee them until you hit brain.

Back to rant: So he has 3-6 months left to graduate and he decides that instead of graduating he should just go to prison. Or were they just going to kill her? And it’s not like the F4 will protect him. Yeah, I know she’ll be saved in the next ep by a request for a pancake or some other type of recipe; but he doesn’t know that. He is intending to commit rape. Or let’s give him the benefit of the doubt, he is only intending to pretend to rape her, but he’s already crossed the line into false imprisonment. Bye bye future.

Then you have the rest of the supporting cast, women fawn all over the F4 and act as their messengers. and the men call them “Master” while fetching them coffee – BARF! At least one person in authority, a TA, participates by calling Zoey trash in class. And then you have the coffee shop guy, who freely doctors people’s drinks. Poor guy. He’s afraid of getting an F4 notice; he should be afraid of going to jail. Doctoring people’s drinks is a crime! and “just a laxative” won’t be accepted in a court of law. People have gone to jail for that. But he didn’t know it was a laxative, it could have been Rohypnol or arsenic, so he could have been an accomplice to rape or a murderer. Nice, really nice.

Problem #3:

F4 are jerks as always, but they are jerks in modern day America, not the fantasy land of BOF. In the US, you assault people, you get arrested. Or if you are famous, then people tell the media and you get trial by media. Even something as simple as “he cut off my ponytail” would result in a ton of bad PR that isn’t easily swept under the rug. Heck, the big black guy (need to find a better nickname for him) could have said “they are assaulting me cause I’m black” and people would have believed it. Heck, it makes more sense then “they are assaulting me for no particular reason except they are jerks.”

Problem #4:

bad writing, bad story, bad acting, bad sound, bad camerawork, bad editing, bad bad bad. Just everything that could be bad is bad.

Bad writing. The writing is awful. Yes, I know the story is awful to begin with, but really, “I grew me some lady balls” – those are called ovaries, and we women are smart enough not to keep ours where they could be easily damaged. There are other lines just as bad.
Bad story. So how did she start in middle of the semester? why did she have to clean a room to dance in? what is her major? why is she only going to be there 9 months? If she is supposed to be poor, why is her apartment so fancy?
Bad acting. Ok, Zoey isn’t a horrible actor, but 99 percent of the rest of the cast is. It looks like they just used kdramas random white guy bad actor list and added other ethnicities.
Bad sound. In some locations, the sound is fine. In others, OK most, it sounds like they are “acting” inside a tin can. There are weird artifacts and sometimes they speak so softly, that you have to read the subs.
Bad camerawork. Most of the time, the camera work is OK, but one time in particular, it was awful. It was worse then home video quality, the camera was shaky. I thought maybe it was part of the plot (a hidden camera was planted in their apartment)
Bad editing. I got so confused at the beginning trying to figure out what was going on with the time skips. well, I got confused, but I didn’t care enough to be extremely confused, so “so confused” was probably an exaggeration.
Bad everything else. continuity for one. Her hair changes from one scene to another, yet she’ll wear the same outfit to her audition and to the first day of school. Instead of fancy time consuming hair styles, she should have kept to a simple (or at least single) style so it wouldn’t be so obvious. Yes, they looked cool, and I was wondering how to do them on myself, but they caused issues.
His wig is awful. Yes, I know; at some point, she’s going to go off on the ponytail & he’s going to cut it off, but couldn’t they have afforded one that at least looks real?
Bad language: Why on earth did they use the F word & other profanities? Come on, it is pretty bad when the subs bleep you.
Maybe the dancing was OK, I don’t know because I don’t dance, so I don’t know what is good or what isn’t.

Good Part #1:

I liked the prank war payback, well, except for the whole doctoring people’s drinks thing.

Good Part #2:

I’ve got nothing.

If you wanna watch it, it is on Viki. but don’t say I sent you and don’t blame me.

Side Note: I had earlier tweeted that this train wreck was beyond words; apparently, I was wrong then too.


Just learned that apparently, the Zoey character will change actresses sometime during the 2nd ep and they will reshoot the 1st ep & part of Ep 2 with the replacement later. Really? So they are ditching the only one who can act, in the middle of an ep!

I think we are guaranteed that this will be the only US remake of a kdrama. You’re Beautiful is safe.

What makes an egg?

And no the answer isn’t “a chicken?” An egg is apparently a person who is white on the outside and yellow on the inside. Aka, a Caucasian who is interested in Asian culture and languages. Some sites said “a white person who wants to be Asian.” I was kinda speechless, but that has never stopped me before. Let me be perfectly clear. I’m “white” and interested in Asian stuff (specifically Korean stuff), but I have no desire to be Asian. And I think most people who are interested in kdramas and kpop aren’t thinking “I wish God had made me Asian.” There may be a few exceptions among teenagers, but even then I don’t think it is that many. Why does having an interest in learning another culture make you weird? Is it because the other culture’s typical physical appearance is very different from yours? Would it be Ok if a Korean was interested in Chinese culture? What about a white American interested in French culture or a white French person interested in British culture? (I know both France & the UK are multicultural – this is just an example.) Or is it Ok for a Caucasian to be a little interested in Asian cultures, but not too much. At what point does someone become an egg? when they start watching TV shows, eating the food, listening to music or learning the language? Or when they just become annoying? And annoying to whom? My friends and family are annoyed with me, but AFAIK, I haven’t annoyed any Koreans yet. I’m sure some Koreans have laughed at me behind my back for my hideous accent or for whatever. (I was wearing a modern hanbok yesterday and forgot I was wearing it until I got to the Korean restaurant and they mentioned it, so I bet they laughed at me. I think hanboks are pretty; sue me. [I love to wear salwar kameezes and watch Bollywood movies so what does that make me? an inside out coconut?]) Or this is what be just appalling, do you become an egg when you make friends with people from that culture? Come on! Why can’t we just like what we like? Why is it wrong for me to like Korean stuff because I’m a nonKorean? I love learning about other cultures; I have since childhood. This is part of who I am. I’d love to teach about US culture because I figure people might be interested in more then what they see on TV. I occasionally help a coworker out with some US cultural oddities that she doesn’t understand. I’m always researching stuff I don’t understand from a foreign TV or movies. I’ve looking up all sorts of things (e.g., AGAs in UK comedy, or red hair ribbons in a Bollywood movie, or “oppa” and red stickers in kdramas) Cultures are fascinating because they are formed by and influence people, and I have no plan to stop being fascinated. If that makes me an egg, oh well. —- Oh and please don’t take “I have no desire to be Asian” as an insult. It isn’t. It is a statement of fact, I have no desire to be someone I’m not. God gave me to Caucasian parents (and wouldn’t accept returns); therefore, I’m Caucasian. I look like my mom so I’m kinda short & dumpy; and I have my grandmother’s …um… chest and my dad’s nose. I know what I’ll look like until I’m 90 because I take after my mom who takes after her mom. Why would I want to give all that up? Besides, I’ll be supercute when I’m old. 😀

Viki Boycott-Cancelled

UPDATE: Cancelled! I spoke with Viki & they said they weren’t blocking me, nor did they see the unblock button. They followed me & then I was able to follow them.
They are going to talk to twitter because I might have discovered a new bug! Lovely.
I know I’ve been giving netizens a run for their money, but I’m glad it is over. I don’t like being mad as I’m a very easy going person.
I’ve left my rant below so you can see how netizeny (is that a word) I was.

I’m boycotting Viki because they don’t know how to treat people with respect. How do I know they don’t know how to treat people with respect? Because they blocked one of their biggest fans.

That’s right. They blocked me on Twitter.

I found out last night when I went to Viki and saw that they had my favorite show: Running Man. “How did I not know this?” So I tweeted about my excitement (since deleted because I don’t feel like advertising for them). I noticed that their name didn’t come up automatically when I started typing. I wanted to see why, so I went to their profile and saw that I wasn’t following them. I thought “that’s weird,” but I had heard about a random unfollow bug, so I tried to refollow. I got this:


I was stunned. I couldn’t imagine would I could have done to deserve being treated like a spammer or a major cursing jerk (can’t think of a clearer, non-profane term, sorry). Even though I don’t use profanity or mean speech, I searched my tweet history, and nothing. Most of my tweets were along the lines of “watch Viki; their subs are better” and “Viki has great subbers.”

The most recent conversation I had involving them was I agreed with someone that the recent “10 watches and you must sign in” thing was annoying. I have a Viki account, but I thought they should have been upfront about it (“please” implies a choice), but I was respectful. And the others in that conversation weren’t blocked, so I still don’t know why they blocked me. Besides, blocking someone for politely disagreeing with you doesn’t make sense.

I can’t find any reason why I should have been blocked. I even researched to see if there is a random blocking bug, couldn’t find one.

I’ve recommended them so many times online and in real life. For crying out loud, the people at the Korean grocery store thought my name was “Viki,” I recommended it so much. I’m not recommending them anymore, quite the opposite.

As for the vikipass, while I was considering it, I’m not anymore.

I wonder how many other people this has happened to; If this was deliberate, I can’t be the only one. Are you blocked? Have you checked?

I’ve tweeted many times about this (giving the story in teeny increments), but no reply from VikiSupport, so I think I’m being ignored.

I’m boycotting Viki and not giving them one single click until I find out why this happened, and I’d like an apology. Since experience has taught me no one listens unless you add a hashtag, I’m using #VikiBoycott. So far, it is a boycott of 1.5 (Unnie rarely has internet).

This is what I want:
An explanation and/or an apology and Viki assuring me that they don’t make a habit of blocking fans for no reason. (Got all 3)

I’m angry and upset and frankly, a little hurt. You only block someone if they are a real dirt-bag. I’m not a dirt-bag.

Sweet Spy – Review…err…Rant

TL:DR = Don’t watch. There is no conclusion. I want my 20 hours back.

actually, maybe I don’t need to say more then that. This is how bad the ending was – I had to verify it was the last episode. It is like they forgot it was the last episode until after they had finished recording.

Oh well, I’ll try to write a proper review. This is a rant, so I apologize in advance for any errors.

I’m trying to avoid writing spoilers, but I’m not sure why because unless you like things so open-ended that they are the Holland Tunnel, you shouldn’t watch it.

Good parts:
Interesting premise – a police woman falls for rich guy’s “I’m a spy” line & resulting hijinks
Unusual lead – he doesn’t speak Korean – pretty much ever. I’ve never heard of a TV show where the main character doesn’t speak the language. He understands it fluently tho.
Acrobatic Ahjussi Minion – he does all these karate kicks & flips all the time. He doesn’t walk across a room – he somersaults.
Kinda funny side characters – one detective is always talking about needing a hweshik (supposed to be spelled hoesik – but I like my phonetic spelling). You’ve seen hweshik’s on dramas many times – those work dinners where everyone gets sloshed. Spoiler – he never gets one. He should have.
Culture insights – I saw a lot of little things I didn’t notice before.

Bad Parts – Ending – or lack there of. Nuff said.
Female lead – She’s too stupid to ask “which side” when he says “I’m a spy” & helps him anyway. (Side note – I still am not exactly sure, but I don’t care anymore.)  Remember: he doesn’t speak Korean – why would she assume he is helping the Korean government.
Male lead – Horrible actor. I think they picked him because he speaks English without a Korean accent and likes to take his shirt off. Seriously, he always gotta take a shower (or he gets stabbed or needs a bubble bath or something). The words that he says are really bad (not K2H calling a laxative an enema bad, tho), but so is the overdramatic school play way he says them. Sometimes he is Ok. (emotionally quiet scenes).
Romance – it jumps all over the place. Spoiler. At one point, they have a very involved kiss and she stops him before it gets too far. (and the ep ends on his “I’m going to kill you ” face), but a couple eps later. They are talking; it switches scenes to a spy meeting in DC and then it switches back to find them in bed – nakey. She’s asleep. I thought I had missed a scene that would explain how that happened.
Bad guys – Most of the time, I had no idea who are the bad guys. and I’m still not quite sure he isn’t one.  Part of it probably has to do with usually CIA = good guys, so it took me awhile to realize that the CIA wasn’t working with the Korean gov.
Inconsistent storyline – or maybe they are just lies upon lies. don’t know.

Kdramas cliches used: Sudden Illness for no apparent reason (he shows up  stabbed – many eps later we find out who/why); Birth secret (lots); orphan; drinking to pass out; stupid female lead; “ugly” female lead male who isn’t; Han River; sit in my car to talk w/ guards outside (need a name for that one); evil mom (step mother); evil dad; evil uncle, being able to understand Korean fluently, but don’t speak a word (need a name), money envelope. There are lots of others, but I’m tired.

Oh and let’s not forget roommates and contract relationship.

Acknowledge Song JiHyo campaign

Since at least February (, I have been asking to update their Running Man page to show Song JiHyo as a member of Running Man. She is nowhere to be seen in the cast photo. Instead, they show Song JoongKi.

Don’t get me wrong. I like Song JoongKi, but he is no longer a member of the Running Man cast and Song JiHyo is. If DramaFever can only include one Song in the cast photo, it should be her. She’s earned it. She is the Ace.

I don’t know why this mistake occurred because DramaFever doesn’t even have rights to episodes with Song JoongKi as a member. I hate to believe that the same family name is the reason, or that JoongKi looks a bit feminine. Or even worse that DramaFever is showing a bit of bias by only showing the male members (and former members) in the cast photo.

Whatever the reason for the mistake, it needs to be fixed, soon. I would say now, but I bet they have to get rights to a use a different image – so they need to get busy and tell us they are trying to fix it.

I’m starting a HashTag campaign. Tweet Dramafever ( with the Hashtag #AcknowledgeSongJiHyo – if enough of us raise our voices…err… tweets, then maybe they will listen and acknowledge that Song JiHyo is Running Man’s Ace, but I’ll settle for her just being in the cast photo as she deserves.
Update: 1 day later and Dramafever changed the photo. Woohoo. My one woman campaign worked when asking didn’t. 🙂