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Don’t assume – bullying

These are some things that I think people need to realize shouldn’t be assumed. I was bullied from 4th grade to high school with varying levels of severity. I’ve gotten over most of the emotional toll, but I still have remnants even after decades have passed. Bullying isn’t a normal part of childhood, even tho the bullied thinks it is. This is written to a parent, but it applies to anyone who is around children/teens to some extent.

  • Don’t assume your kid knows difference between bullying and normal joking teasing (both sides give & take), teach them if it’s only fun for one person it’s wrong.
  • Don’t assume they’ll tell you if they are being bullied. My mom found out some of it when I was an adult and some she’ll never know.
  • Don’t assume bullies know they’re bullies. I’m certain that the teenage girls who picked me up to throw into a body of water thought it was just joking. Until I bit the nearest arm in self-defense.
  • Don’t assume telling school will solve it, many times that puts a bigger target on the kid. “tattle-tale” etc. so be prepared to go big. (If a child is assaulted even by another child, then you should speak to local authorities/police about what can be done.)
  • Don’t assume your kid will stop another kid from being bullied, peer pressure is very real. Teach them it is OK to speak up or get a teacher or to tell you afterwords (if it’s not safe to speak up). Teach them “silence is consent” – if they stay silent, they’re basically telling the bully (& victim) it is Ok. Some bullies will genuinely believe that someone would have stopped them if what they were doing was “that bad.”
  • If your kid confides in you about another kid being bullied, don’t assume the victim’s parents know. tell them & the school – perhaps in writing.
  • Don’t assume your child will tell you if your other child is being bullied. 3 of my siblings (2 different times) watched and said nothing. My little brother said he “opened the door so [Big Sister who was babysitting] could hear you screaming.”
  • Don’t assume that children know that “don’t touch stuff that doesn’t belong to you” also applies to people’s bodies. teach them that people are more important than things so of course it applies.
  • Don’t assume that children know that it is Ok to raise their voice & say “Back off” “Don’t touch me” “get your hands off of me” – even when they’re supposed to be quiet. Tell them just because you’re supposed to be quiet in a library etc, doesn’t mean you’re to allow someone to touch you.
  • Don’t assume children know what is the appropriate use of force. “Knee till you hit brain” is appropriate if a male is going to assault them. (but if the bullying is just verbal try not to escalate it (not the least of which, there could be charges))
  • Don’t assume being unkind/mean once = being a bully forever. I can recall a few times to my shame that I said unkind things to another kid. I didn’t mean to be mean, and I certainly wasn’t a bully. But teach them if you’re unkind to someone you should apologize and try never to do it again. And teach them to forgive if their friend was unkind. But if there is a habit of unkindness, that person isn’t their friend and they should stay away. even if they’re supposed to be their BFF.
  • Don’t assume the local bully’s parents know their kids are the biggest bully in town. They may be just as shocked as you would be at the idea that your kid is a bully. any accusations of being a bully, should be taken seriously and discussed with child before flying off the handle.
  • Don’t assume “once a bully always a bully” & “once a victim always a victim.” the bully may have been a victim at one time and the victim may become a bully. And bullies can change and become better people.

And lastly,

If someone teaches your kid, “sticks and stones” tell them that’s a lie. words hurt very badly.

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I have a Goodly Heritage

Yesterday was the anniversary of my dad’s Homegoing. (He died October 24th – so he went Home (to Heaven).)
So today, I was thinking of him and by extension, Mom.
This song came to mind and I started singing it (badly). And then I watched the video I did for my parent’s 50th anniversary.
I’ve posted about this before, but it’s still a favorite.

Goodly Heritage (possibly written by Leah Sandlin)

I may not have riches as some others may
But I have a mother who knows how to pray
maybe there’re some things I’ve missed in my youth
But I have a father that stands for the truth

Chorus:
I have a goodly heritage
I’m blessed with things you can’t see
I have a goodly heritage
And that is worth far more to me

If in my future, my parents pass on,
To live in that City they’ve come to call Home
They may not leave me the wealth of this world
But I will inherit their God and His Word

Chorus

When problems plague you, and troubles rage on
just look at your children who’ll bear your name on
someday they’ll walk down the same path you’re on
and they’ll need a witness that His grace is strong
they need a goodly heritage; they’ll look at you and press on
they’ll say my folks stayed faithful; in that strength they can carry on

I have a goodly heritage
I want for them the same thing
I have a goodly heritage
that’s something worth passing on

now that’s something worth passing on

as I said, I did a music video of it and if you know my last name, you can watch it here.
 http://wp.me/pIXIq-lR

In the meantime, here is an acapella version of just the song.

Common Meter Song

Last night, I learned about Common Meter & today while getting dressed this came to me.

If you can’t remember

the tune of a song to sing

just pretend you’re on

a fateful trip

and sing with gilligan

sing with gilligan

 

(this verse needs work)

Cause lots of songs

are in this thing

called common meter

so you can switch around

words and tunes at will

words and tunes at will

 

I should write another verse

but I’ve got to go

cause I’ll be late for work

or wait I already am

I already am

For Christmas, I decided to give my sister in law a Happy Planner. But more then that, I decided to customize it with lots of places to store important papers. I had seen that her monthly planner  was stuffed full of papers, so that was why I had the idea.

(I apologize for the clarity of many of these photos – apparently it wasn’t bright enough. And I can’t retake them because I already gave it to her)

Background

Happy Planners are disc bound planners that are colorful and creative. They’re not something most men would want but they’re very practical. Crafters and people into scrapbooking like them because they’re fun to decorate.

I started with a simple design (sugar & type). Since I wasn’t sure about her tastes. This is simple and classic and easy to make your own.

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It’s an 18 month planner, so I pulled out July – November 2016 & placed it in a clear plastic envelope for safe keeping.

I started the customization using primarily stuff from the Dollar Tree or stuff I already had around the house.

Note: If you want to do your own Happy Planner, pick up small pair of very pointy scissors & a standard hole punch. I used the cardboard cover that are used in the store to protect it as a guide. You can either punch right thru it, or do what I do, use it to mark where you want to punch and then punch, after punching just cut out the area to go into the ring. I tried the happy planner punch and I didn’t like it – it jammed on the first use. (I’ve since bought a Circa punch which I like much better.)

Note: Dollar Tree (which i may call dollar store) Decorative Adhesive Paper Tape is what I’m calling Washi. It’s not proper Washi since it’s not masking tape. But I like it better for this because it’s thicker and isn’t transparent.  If I mess up when hole punching, I can just cover up my mistake and repunch.  You can’t do that with translucent masking tape. I highly recommend buying a roll or 12 next time you’re at the Dollar Tree.

Customizations

To give her more writing/doodling space and to cover up the unnecessary 2016 calendar. I used scrapbooking paper & a repositionable glue stick (so it’s undoable). The opposite side has a list of our family’s birthdays. She’ll likely need to make her own for her side of the family. Birthday “washi” tape from the Dollar Tree reinforces the printer paper. (No photo for obvious reasons)

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I wanted to protect the cover page a little so I added a clear protective sheet by cutting down a transparency & hole punching it. I discovered that the transparency I used is very staticy-so for my own protective inner cover I used a laminated piece of cardstock that I had decorated. If I had used the transparency, my planner would be covered in my loose hairs.
I tried to make a replacement cover out of a dollar tree plastic folder. but I punched it wrong so I ended up with 2 fronts instead of a front & a back. It makes a good guide for punching so I gave one to her and kept one for myself.

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Now it’s time for the fun part:

Folders

I wanted to give her a lot of pockets to hold papers and stuff.

This double pocket folder is for my niece’s school stuff. I had decided I wanted to keep the outside edge of the pocket, so I cut it down using a 2016 page as a guide. I made sure I was in the bottom right corner when cutting. I used paper cutters because I can’t cut a straight line. scissors would work as well.

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I then joined the two pieced together with more Dollar Tree Washi. I used a school design even tho it didn’t match so she could find it easily.
I also cut the flaps at an angle so they wouldn’t be caught when I hole punched it.

I made a plain one that I intended to be used for stuff related to my brother.  I used the “most masculine washi I had”  🙂 The folder I had cut down was slots for a business card. So I covered it with a Star Wars sticker. It’s pretty boring.

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Pockets

Since I don’t know she will be using it, I wanted to provide her a variety of methods to store stuff.

This first Pocket is very simple. It’s a cardboard folder cut down and a pocket created using double-sided adhesive tape.

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The next one is more complicated. It’s made of 2 folders placed together so they form 3 pockets. they don’t go that great together, but it was the best I have.

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It’s hard to tell in this photo, but you can see the center pocket here.

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For my own planner, I do a variation, but I start with the pocket like the green one and add a solid cardstock divider – so I get 2 pockets instead of 3.

Stickies

what’s a planner without stickies?

This first set came with my planner since I had bought a box kit with extras, but I gave it to her.

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But that’s not nearly enough stickies.

I found this sticky note set at Walmart – it was hole punched for a standard 3 ring binder, so I covered the ends  with washi.

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There’s enough room on the back for a few of these to-do list stickies also from walmart.

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These stickies are from dollar tree. (I bought my own set of the “sticker notes” and I don’t like them – they leave residue)

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And since you don’t want to carry a whole pad of stickies in your planner. I made her this little sticky organizer. She can carry whatever stickies she needs and keep the rest at home.

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Stickers

And since I’ve given into my love of stickers, I had to convert her.

I gave her an assortment of Happy Planner stickers. (I have value packs so I pulled out a few pages for her)

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Random planner stickers some from the Dollar Tree

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and some from Amazon.

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Random little stickers to decorate or to use however she feels.

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Colorful alphabet stickers.

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Stickers to put reminders of her vet appointments etc.

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Misc

Booklet holder

I didn’t know if she used a devotional or ever had a need to carry a small booklet with her, but I made this – just in case. I didn’t do a very good job, but I gave it to her anyway.  (You can see how it would work in the second photo.)

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Dashboard/Bookmark

She’s going to need to find her page, so I made her this bookmark. It can also act as a dashboard if she puts sticky notes on it.

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Storage

For pens, pencils and misc, I made her this case. It’s actually a dollar store cosmetic bag combined with a dollar store headband. She can easily loop it over her planner to have it with her where ever she’s at.

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Note: Elastic ribbon is much easier to work with then this. It’s basically a giant pony tail holder and when I cut it the satin started to unravel. So I ended up breaking out the hot glue gun and the double-sided adhesive tape to secure it.
This is basically how it works with the elastic ribbon.

  • Cut off the wrist strap.
  • On both sides of the case, cut a very small slit.
  • use a bobby pin or a yard needle to thread the ribbon thru the slit.
  • Tie a knot.
  • Figure out ribbon length by making it either exactly the right size or slightly smaller then it needs to be to go around the planner without stretching.
  • cut the ribbon.
  • thread the ribbon thru the other hole
  • tie a knot

It’s way too convoluted to explain how to do it with giant pony tail holder. Just get elastic ribbon, either from craft store/section or from hair accessories.

And of course, she needs stuff to put in it. the paper clips came from walmart and everything else came from the Dollar Tree. Not pictured were some cute dollar store pens that I forgot to include.

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All the stickers go together nicely in a dollar store document envelope.  (except the alphabet stickers, but she can cut them down to fit if she wants to – I did).

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Extra pages (including some of the Home Planner extension pack (I kept the parts I wanted) go in another envelope.

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Reception

Everything fit into the box my planner came in – with some squishing. So it looked nice when she opened it.

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She was quite pleased at it. The only thing I regret was that I didn’t know her favorite colors were black and hot pink. If I had known, I would have raided Dollar Store for hot pink anything, but since hot pink is such a bold color, I limited it to the one I made for my niece’s stuff since i wanted it to be seen easily.

She took it to work that night and her coworkers wanted me to make them one also. 🙂

 

she was pleased that it was pretty, practical and of course the effort I spent. It was definitely a Christmas win for me 🙂

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Today, a video occurred to me that I left out of my fav christian songs post.

I love this song “Goodly Heritage” since my sister first read me the lyrics. My siblings were gonna sing it and record it for me to use in the music video for my parents 50th anniversary dinner. but we decided instead to just have me do a video from my sister’s Goodly Heritage CD. (I believe we even got permission since she knows them)
my sister said there was no way she could sing it without crying. (I think this was the video that made my brother “mr. tough guy” cry at the anniversary.)

This song fits my parents so perfectly. I really do have a goodly heritage. my parents weren’t/aren’t perfect because they’re godly not God. But when I heard this song, I thought “how do they know Mom & Dad?”  the answer is clear, it’s because they have similar parents.

I rewatched my video today and it made me tear up. Probably because of Daddy being Home (with a capital H), and because I’m now a grand-aunt and I know the importance of passing on that goodly heritage.

This link goes to a video of my family. If you know my last name, you can watch the video. http://wp.me/pIXIq-lR

In the meantime, here is an acapella version of just the song.

 

Here are the lyrics:

I may not have riches as some others may
But I have a mother who knows how to pray
There may be some things I’ve missed in my youth
But I have a father who stands for the truth

Chorus:

I have a goodly heritage
I’m blessed with things you can’t see
I have a goodly heritage
And that is worth far more to me

And if in the future, my parents pass on,
To dwell in that City, we’ve come to call Home
They may not leave me the wealth of this world
But I will inherit their God and His Word

Chorus

When problems plague you and troubles rage on.
just look at your children who’ll bear your name on.
Someday they’ll walk down the same path you’re on
and they’ll need a witness that his grace is strong.

They need a goodly heritage.
they’ll look at you and press on
they’ll say my folks stay faithful.
in that strength they can carry on

I have a goodly heritage
I want for them the same thing.
I have a goodly heritage
that’s something worth passing on.

now, that’s something worth passing on.

I sing; I love to sing; but I don’t sing well. I make a “joyful noise” emphasis on the noise. But I love music, I don’t listen to it as much as I used to because I realized I was singing along at work and it wasn’t quite under my breath.

I don’t understand how people can have 1 favorite song. I have so many.  Every so often, I get the urge to share my favorite songs. Normally, it’s a million shares. But this time I decided to do a post.

These are Christian songs/hymns etc that I love. I’ll probably add more as others occur to me.  Many of them have been my favorites for years. The videos below aren’t necessarily the best video or even the version I  think of when I sing (several are family versions so my version might be ) but they’re online.

I’m Gonna Sing

This song more then anything seems to make me show the Joy of the Lord that is in me. I just love it. I’m a dried up Baptist, but this song gets me moving. I sing it loud & badly and I’m moving my arms & my head in my own idea of rhythm so it’s a good thing I listen alone. This is probably the  newest addition to my favorites list.

God’s Perfect Lamb

This song I’ve loved since the first time I heard it. I love the music and the words. (I’m more all about the words then anything else). I want to translate this into Korean. (there’s not a Korean translation, but the owners are Ok with me translating it – if I send them the translation)

He is King

This song isn’t a great favorite, but it came to mind today and the lyrics would be easier to translate.

Symphony of Praise

This is another favorite. I haven’t listened to it in ages. Love it.  (He was one of my favorite singers growing up. It’s also awesome in Spanish. (I had his Spanish albums as well.)

When I get Carried Away

This is along the same as first one. It gets me moving. tho typicallly just toe-tapping. I can actually listen to this one in public.

The Victor

This is my Easter song. I love love love it.

God is Still Good

I heard this song (or a version of it) for the first time going to see my dad at the hospital. I listened to it probably 10 times in a row. It’s an old song so it’s strange that I hadn’t heard it before. The music isn’t my favorite style (little twangy) – but the lyrics are what I needed.

He’s Alive

I love this song. When I took vocal lessons, I wanted to sing it. (teacher wanted me to sing in public) I obviously don’t have the ability to sing this well (especially in Public) because it requires letting loose.

Because He Lives

Yet another favorite of mine thru the years. I haven’t heard this version before but it’s Ok. It’s kinda slow but singable. (I don’t care for the versions where they go so high on “reigns” ) There are millions of Because He Lives videos on YT – pick one that you like 🙂

This is a very good version in Korean.  It’s the tempo I like. (but she can go pretty high which isn’t my favorite because I can’t)

I Repent

The lyrics to this are so powerful. It never fails to convict me.

Hallelujah Chorus

I was going to end there but I have to share my all time favorite. Since I can’t sing, I just pick a part and sing. Tho sometimes I sign it. It’s beautiful signed.

This is not the sign language I was looking for but it’s awesome.